We take the stress out of choosing the perfect first dance song.
Choosing a first dance song is such a different experience for every couple. For some, it is an easy breezy “that’s our song” and hey presto, they’re done.
For others, it’s a minefield: you met on the dancefloor of Coppers and “boom, shake, shake, shake the room” isn’t going to cut it, you and your man don’t have the same tastes in music – he loves Jay-Z while you’re more a Moody Blues sort of girl, and you can’t bear the idea of everyone you know watching you and your two left feet.
Well fear not, the first dance, as everything at your wedding, is about you and your man being yourselves and having the time of your life, so dispell all those fears, we’re hear with some helpful pointers to navigate the first dance song minefield and make sure you have a first dance that is just fabulous…
Pick something sentimental.
Many couples want to find a song that relates, in one way or another, to their relationship. Maybe the tune played on the radio during your first kiss, or maybe it reminds you of an unforgettable vacation. No matter the reason, choosing a song with sentimental value will make your first dance extra special.
Involve your partner
However you have decided to share the planning for your big day, choosing your first dance song is definitely something to do together. You both need to love the song and be happy dancing to it, so take some time out of your busy wedding schedule to listen to tracks, make a shortlist and then choose the one that works best for both of you.
Consider your love story.
If you don’t have a special song, there’s no need to worry! You can still select something significant for your first dance. Think about important moments that have defined your life together thus far, whether it was a time when you dated long-distance or if you had an unusual start to your relationship. Then do your research, trying to locate lyrics that tell your particular love story. You may come across something that speaks to the two of you and decide to incorporate it into your wedding.
Decide if you want something traditional or contemporary.
Almost as important as the genre is the age of the song. Ask yourselves if you’d rather select a classic wedding song or a contemporary one. Each option has its pros and cons: Classic songs are timeless and never go out of style, but some brides and grooms may find them overused and predictable. Alternatively, contemporary songs may better suit your taste in music, but you may regret the choice in five years if the tune drastically loses popularity.
Be mindful of the melody.
Of course, slow dancing works best with certain rhythms. Avoid choosing an upbeat song with a fast tempo (unless you plan to perform an untraditional fast-paced dance-then by all means, go for it!) You can also speak with your band or DJ in advance, asking them to customize the rhythm of a particular song to make it better suited for slow dancing.